Friday, August 22, 2008

The dreaded Sex talk...

When we were driving home from my Dad's house a few weeks ago, we were listening to the radio when all of a sudden a little voice from the back asked, "What's sex?" (Tristin thought he heard it in the song, but it was actually the word accept.) Anyway, I sat there in shock wondering how to explain it to a 6 year old boy, of all people, that that dreaded word meant! In that moment I said a lightening fast prayer and asked God to help me. I started to explain it was something Heavenly Father designed for Mommy's and Daddy's, when Travis took over the conversation! How I was so thankful!! He gave the age apprioate discussion with no details and just talked about how it's what married people and animals do to make babies. blah, blah, blah. And that was that! Conversation done! I just sat there thinking, "What just happened?"
Anyway, this morning, a few minutes before 7:00 am, I was in making my bed when Tristin walked in with his airplane lego in hand. He causally stood and watched me and then started talking about Shrek, the movie. Out of the blue he started talking about the donkey and the "s" word he had said. I instantly thought he was referring to the a** word referring to a donkey, so I was about to talk about how sometimes a word has 2 meanings, and all that, when I figured out that wasn't the word he was talking about. At that point I was confused so I asked, "Buddy, you are allowed to repeat the word to me, you will not get in trouble, I just want to understand what you're talking about so I can explain it to you." He embaressedly lowered his head and said, "its what Mommy's and Daddy's do to make a baby." Well, great, I thought. How in the world did we go from talking about a donkey/ass to sex all in about 10 seconds!? So on went the conversation... the word he was talking about was "sexy", not the other 2 like I thought, so I eplained how sexy is a grown up way of saying a woman looks very beautiful, and it isn't the meaning of sex. He blurted out, "I know Mommy, I know. Daddy already told me A LOT about it." Well, because I was there for the conversation, I knew his A LOT was VERY minimal, so I just quickly explained that Heavenly Father designed it for parents and animals to make babies, and that it is very private, and something we don't talk about with our friends on the playground, ect... I did, however, tell him, if he ever hears a word and he's confused about it or doesn't know what it means, to come to me/Daddy and talk to us about it. He confirmed that he would, and then we started on our next morning task, but HOLY COW! I handeled it great, and he didn't sence my frantic whirlwind of thoughts, but inside I was screaming, I"M NOT READY FOR THIS!!!
Just thought I'd share how my morning got off to a start...

3 comments:

jayna said...

Dreaded is the correct word for these conversations and explanations. IT's so hard to let kids grow up! You guys did great!!!

Gabe & Christy Beal said...

Oh my heck! I seriously died reading this! You really did a perfect job not freaking out. Im going to send my child over to your house for these talks!

ps - lets do olive garden next week!

dawninga said...

There is an awesome book by Brad Wilcox called "Where Do Babies Come From?" It is very age appropriate with questions in the back for older kid. You should check it out. It has saved me more than once while I tried to explain that it's not bad but it's for marriage!